The Reading man is good friends with Swansea City's Darren Pratley and Leon Britton but he says that those friendships will be put to one side as they battle for a place in amongst next season's elite.
He told GetReading “On the day any friendship goes straight out the window.
“Darren and Leon are both top guys and as well as playing with them while growing up earlier in my career, I have also been against them many times as well.”
The 27-year-old midfielder has never made it to a play-off final, despite being involved in previous campaigns at Griffin Park and Madejski Stadium.
“I lost two semi-finals with Brentford and then another with Reading in my first season here,” said the Londoner.
“But what happened in the past doesn’t mean anything.
“I feel good right now, I’m pretty excited about the game, but it’s important not to let it play on your mind too much.
"We’re just trying to treat it as another game.
“Brian Howard and Matt Mills have both played at Wembley and for those of us that haven’t – you can only imagine what it must be like.
“We need to try and stay as relaxed as possible in the build-up as it is quite a long wait until the game.
“You need to stay focused and make sure you don’t get too carried away with it all.
“We were talking in training the other day about how everyone else is now off on their holidays, but that doesn’t bother us.
“I’m sure there will be time to do stuff like play golf if we want to leading up to the game.
"Nobody has said we can’t do what we would normally do or anything like that.
“The staff have been great and they will make sure that come Monday we are firing on all cylinders.
“I think Brendan has done a great job,” he said.
“Swansea have played the passing game for some time and Brendan is really suited to them.
“I think he has managed to bring them on even further and make them into a better side and that shows in the fact that they finished third.
“He’s a good coach and manager and even though it didn’t quite work at Reading, we always knew he would bounce back quickly.”