……..I just had to write to you for some advice about a relationship that I’m in because I think that it’s going wrong and I just don’t know what to do next. Basically, it all began about four and a half years ago when I got involved with someone local. To be honest she’d been admired by many for a long, long time and although she’d had some really good times and some fame too, she’d fallen on hard times by the time I got involved. I just think that she was too easily led and got into bed with some shady characters who only wanted her for her money and the nice home that she was looking to move to. It’s easily done I know but the galling thing is that a lot of her friends warned her about them……..but there you go. Anyway, that’s in the past and I’m pleased to say that once she realised that she needed me we started to get on fine. Between us (and with a lot of help from her many friends) we managed to turn things around, got rid of her debts over the next few years and helped make her business healthy again. I was getting more and more involved as time went by and not only did I invest £100 K in her business but I was now doing a lot of work for the business free of charge, running bus schemes and the like. D’you know JAnet, without meaning to sound big headed, I really think that having me around helped bring a lot of her old friends back into her life. After a long haul things were starting to look rosy, but then last summer, she started to go ‘all distant’ on me. She was planning to move to a new home on the outskirts of town. It was a cracking place, all mod cons (well nearly) and when we had a farewell bash at her old place everything still seemed fine. Then the summer hols came around and things just seemed to fall apart. I don’t think it was me JAnet. I was still doing work for nothing, I was still planning for the coming year but things weren’t right .There were little things that showed the cracks were there, like when she went back on her promise to give me my own office at the new place. It may seem a small deal to some, but it was very important to me She wouldn’t budge though and to be honest I think she was being advised by some new friends she’d made. I think they work for the council or something………typical, once again she’s having her head turned by so called ‘money men’! Anyway, I’ve stayed with her this year but things aren’t what they should be. In fact they’re a lot worse because she now owes me a serious amount of money but is refusing to pay. I really need that money to push forward with my own ideas and plans which ironically will also involve promoting her business. Why won’t she appreciate this? I’m so disappointed with her attitude. She seems to have forgotten her friends and where she was four and a half years ago. Maybe it’s those money men friends of her again? I just don’t know. What do you think I should do JAnet? Stick with her or go my own way? I don’t want it to be over but I get the impression that she wouldn’t care if it was. ST St Helen’s Road, Swansea |