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Lee Trundle
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Pacemaker said:From my personal experience I would be very careful mixing with others and take care of your loved ones.
We have kept my 80 year mother safe all year by isolating her from everybody, made some tough decisions to only keep in touch by FaceTime arrange all deliveries for online shopping, my mother has been fit and worked hard all her life.
However in the last few years she had heart failure as a result of leaking heart valves, she refused treatment as she was nursing my father through terminal cancer, after my father died last year we were told by the cardiologist there was nothing now they could do.
We all stuck rigidly to the isolation advice we made massive sacrifices, we missed her 80th birthday, she was alone on Mother’s Day and the first anniversary of my fathers death but she insisted on keeping her independence and keeping herself isolated. The only time I physically saw her was to take her for hospital appointments. She was abandoned by her surgery who refused to visit her to check her water levels.
Eventually the inevitable happened and we had take her to A&E at Royal Glam Hosp we had to leave her alone at the door at midnight on a Sunday night as we weren’t allowed in, she was kept in A&E for 36 hrs whilst waiting for a negative COVID test before she could be put on the ward. We couldn’t speak to her as there were not enough nurses to deal with patients and answering the phone to relatives was not a priority. After 4 days I managed to get a mobile onto the ward for her and it appeared she was on the mend as the medication was working. She was on a ground floor ward so I was able to talk to her through the sealed windows, and she was on top form.
4 hours later I had a phone call saying she was unlikely to make it through the night, my brother and I were allowed onto the ward to sit with our mother as she died, she fought for three days to cling onto life, we were then told that she had tested positive and was being moved to a COVID ward. We would not be allowed to be with her, that was the last time I saw her.
Within 4 hours she was dead, within 24 hours both my brother and I were ill with COVID, I am very fit my BMI is 23 I was in bed for a week, I still can’t shake off the cough after three weeks
I gave COVID to my wife who was very ill.
My mother had served her community all her life looking after others was a very popular person will not be allowed more than 30 people at her funeral, her elderly friends are too frightened to attend, grandchildren can’t go because of limited numbers.
I am entirely heartbroken knowing I will never see her or speak to her again, so when I hear or read people scoffing COVID remember my experience.
I've delayed replying as I'm lost for appropriate words so I'll just wish the best going forward and commiserate with you for your loss and the manner in which it befell you.